The Elusiveness of Peace and Joy

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The Elusiveness of Peace and Joy!

Do you want peace and joy?  Of course you do.  As least you think you do until you have a judgment or an upset that you won’t let go of.   You are upset because something was done to you and you feel you are in the right and the offending party should go to hell.  Or places like that.  Right?  OK – Let’s say you are right but do you still want peace and joy?  You can’t have it if you want someone to go to hell or hold onto an upset that you will not consider in another way.

I know someone who is holding onto a grievance.  He was actually attacked, pushed up against a fence and would have been hit if someone hadn’t interfered.  Why did the perpetrator assault him?  He had responded to an insult with his own insult and that angered the attacker and so he took matters into his hands, literally.  Who started it?  It doesn’t matter.  What matters is how we now find the peace that eluded us the first moment we reacted.  That will be the subject of another article and an important one but for now let’s look at how we can obtain the peace we want.

We have not found peace by remembering and replaying the event because we are stuck in our thoughts and we are sure we are in the right.  But are you happy being in the right?  Would you rather be right or happy?  Currently whenever we see that person or think of them we are unhappy.  Ask yourself: Do I want peace and joy?

If the answer is YES, then decided to STOP believing the set belief you have in your mind (just for a moment) and choose another way to look at this?  Say:  “OK – I’ll look at this another way for the sake of my own peace.”

*“Begin to think of that (person) brother who has been denied by YOU the peace and joy that is his right under the equal laws of God.  You have denied them to yourself and now you claim them as your own. Think of this brother a little while and tell him in your mind:

My brother peace and joy I offer you,

That I may have God’s peace and joy as mine.”

We don’t think that just because we have denied peace and joy to someone that in so doing we are in effect really denying them to our self.  If you hold hate or a grudge in your mind, you are the one HOLDING the hate and the grudge in yourself.  You are the sufferer.  Do you think your brother is suffering?  We don’t know but we do know you are.

Would you rather say to that brother?

My brother, misery and suffering I offer you

That  I may have the ego’s misery and suffering as mine.

Which version do you choose?  If the word God bothers you, take it out.  God won’t care.  That mystery is love and love never condemns.  It doesn’t know how to.  Make a copy of the pledge and paste it around the house.  Take yourself on as a student and train yourself to accept that peace and joy is your inheritance and that you are worth it.  You are worth it and you will experience peace and joy when you offer it to others and especially to the one you are upset with or have judged or who has offended you.

* The above quotes come from the spiritual book, A Course In Miracles, Workbook lesson 105 God’s Peace and Joy are Mine.  Visit  www.acim.org  go The Workbook lessons and then when the lesson comes up, click on “hear” and listen to the entire lesson and close your eyes.   Choose peace!

Hint: When you give you also receive!

You are a Decision Making Mind

 

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You are a decision making mind!  Right?!

However, you are a decision making mind that has decided it is NOT a decision making mind!  At least not all the time and here is why.

IN our world of illusion we have a split mind: the ego and the right mind which the Course calls the part of the mind we use to access the Holy Spirit, Jesus, the Love within.  Observe your mind when it is on automatic.  There are thoughts of worry, envy, judgments, fear, and also thoughts of appreciation, a friend, a loved one, clouds or spring flowers, raspberries, chocolate, or coffee.  Understand that there are various categories of ideas, thoughts running helter skelter, hither and yon and where are you?  If you are following your ego lock, stock and barrel you are not using the right mind.  You are off course!  The Course in Miracles, tells us our egoic thoughts are not out real thoughts.  Our real thoughts are the thoughts we share with God, with love.  It also says the memory of God comes to the quiet mind.   Suicidal thoughts are NOT the thoughts of God.  They are painful thoughts of the false mind, the ego.  You are NOT the ego.

The Course In Miracles has a workbook of 365 lessons, one per day, that trains us to see through the clouds and reclaim our decision making mind and the light that you are.  That process helps us learns to make the choice between the ego and the right mind.  It is a journey without distance.  You don’t need to travel to see a guru or take a workshop but you will be led by a quiet voice of love within.  The journey is inner, it is between your Self and the Love within that will hold your hand the entire time and for all time.  Take the journey with the intention and determination that you are doing something very Holy.  It is truly a mind training and life changing journey and you will succeed.

Take the journey to your real home.  Start at lesson number 1 and read one every day no matter if you understand it or not.  Keep going!

When you get to lesson 35 you will read: “My mind is part of God’s I am very Holy.”

Keep going – your decision making mind is in charge!  You are on your way HOME to the true Self!

www.acim.org – look at the lessons and the text

www.miraclecenter.org – find a study group in your area.

www.facim.org – lots of wonderful books by Dr. Ken Wapnick

Have a Heart

 

Mt. Shasta's HeartHave a Heart!  Mt. Shasta’s heart.   Remember: Go your heart, the love within is your guide!

We live in a dualistic world: war and peace; hot and cold, short and tall and the list goes on. We also have a dualist mind that contains two thought systems: the voice of the ego or the voice of the Holy Spirit, truth and peace.

Watch your thoughts and you will figure out which voice you listen to.

The bad news is that the ego is the default system that is always running.  It is the voice that makes you miserable.  Do not listen to it.

The good news is that YOU are the one with the remote! You are in charge of changing channels.

We are listening to the ego’s sly thoughts when our judgments are of someone or yourself. Worried or fearful thoughts of guilt or envy are certainly egoic thoughts. However, they are just thoughts. You don’t have to believe them. Ask yourself: How do I feel? To my mind the ego is always comparing, sizing up the situation, and a master at separating us from others.

For example one night I woke up worried about a planned trip. I could see my mind was going crazy with various scenarios and worry. However, I was worried about something that was in the future. I was projecting fear into the future. The ego went crazy building the case that I was going to miss my plane, or get air sick or stuck in bad weather, etc. I finally realized what was happening and changed channels. I repeated my favorite mind calming phrase “I rest in God” from Workbook lesson 109 and went to sleep. Choosing peace is a practice and a decision.

This example clearly shows that there is a part of the mind that is separate from the ego. It is the decision maker within that chooses, when you are aware enough, and you realize you are not at peace. Always ask: “How do I feel?” If not peaceful then it is up to you to change your thoughts.

I am forever and always inspired by A Course In Miracles,  and in particular Lesson #106.

 

Let me be still and listen to the truth.

“If you will lay aside the ego’s voice, however loudly it may seem to call; if you will not accept its petty gifts that give you nothing that you really want; if you will listen with an open mind, that has not told you what salvation is; then you will hear the mighty Voice of truth, quiet in power, strong in stillness, and completely certain in Its messages.”

http://www.acim.org

Suicide is not wrong……

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Suicide is not wrong but it is tragic!

The book, A Course In Miracles, tells us that there is no death.

You cannot die because you are Eternal. You have a body and it will die

but Your True Identity as Spirit will never die.

You are here to learn lessons. Whatever lesson confronts you that is

causing you pain, look at it with the Holy Spirit in your MIND.

We have a split mind: The Holy Spirit and the ego. You are the one who

decides which part of your mind to listen to. If you listen to the ego

you are in pain. If you listen to the Holy Spirit you will find answers to

the lessons you came to learn.

Go to http://www.acim.org and click on workbook lessons and choose 101

Do it today!

You are loved!

 

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Come to this holy place, I will meet you there. Close your eyes and listen carefully

to the voice for love within, and you will learn why you are here.

Suicide is not for you!

Suicide is NOT for you but Inner Peace IS!

If you think suicide is a way out – think again. You do not know the Magnificence you are.

You are not who you think you are.

You may not know it but you are the Light of the World. Do you laugh? Well, its true.

Find the light in you and never suffer a thought of suicide.

Robin Williams did not know who he was. If he did he would not be gone from this world.

Did you see the Light in Robin Williams? It is also in you.

He did not realize it was there within. But you can.

It is there.

Waiting.

Find it.

Perhaps you have health problems, depression or an addiction?

It may seem strange to look at problems or addictions as gifts but they are life’s lessons so consider them gifts and learn something on the journey. A gift can also be a challenge. Take the challenge as a gift to help you grow into the depths of your soul.

Who runs your life? We live in a dualistic world and have a dualistic mind. It contains both aspects of: “good” and “bad.” Remember the cartoon of Donald Duck with an angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other? He was conflicted over which one to listen to. We knew which one was the voice of Truth or love as we hoped Donald would follow the love within.

What I have learned on this life journey so far is: the ego is not my friend.

Do I listen to it? Yes. It is one of two voices or thought systems.

Do I follow it? No.

I go within and ask “How can I see this situation differently?” I want peace and if I listen closely I will get a thought or something happens that reminds me what the peace is

The ego mind does not care we if live or die. It does want your attention and will try to distract you from reaching the other voice or thought system.

We have a split mind. You can listen to the ego or to the voice of truth within.

Love is your identity. Listen to guidance from your Higher Self and follow it and have faith, believe in it. By taking charge of your beautiful Mind, you take the ego’s power away.

This is the wisdom taught by many psychological and spiritual practices, Buddhism, A Course In Miracles or Alcoholics Anonymous to name a few.

The ego cannot change the love that is within you. It will try. It cannot succeed because LOVE is eternal. You may not feel loving but that does not mean it is not there.

You need to will TO find it.

You are in charge when you remember LOVE is who you are.

You are already really healed, whole and innocent!

You may not realize it now but that is your TRUTH.

http://www.acim.org
http://www.facim.org
http://www.innerpeaceforyou.me
Google:
Adyashanti
Byron Katie
Eckhart Tolle
Gil Fronsdal
Michael A. Singer

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Suicide is hurtful

Janpanese Anenomes

Suicide is hurtful – FIND INNER PEACE NOW – it is possible.

You are loved! You are Love – this is your identity, but if you are listening to the ego you will never know it or feel it. The ego is not YOU. Your powerful mind can choose between the ego or the Love within. It is a choice but maybe you don’t see it that way.

I really don’t want to write about suicide. I’d like to pretend it never happened in my family. It is especially painful when you lose someone you love and for me, one I brought into the world. I never, ever in my wildest dreams, thought that suicide would be a possibility. There was so much to live for.

Writing about it is painful but I hope this helps you, whether you are contemplating it or trying to keep someone from it, so you might understand how to possibly avoid this horrific path.

How to help:
If you know someone is depressed or hurting ask them to talk about it. What’s wrong? What’s right? If it feels appropriate say: “I know you are suffering. Would you ever consider taking your life?” Perhaps they will lie but you need to know if it is something they might consider. And they should know how worried you are. I should have done that. I knew he was suffering but I didn’t know how much or that it would lead to terminating his life. A life I loved.

Follow your intuition about what to do but you may need to visit them NOW. I even asked “Should I come to see you” The answer was “No!” But go anyway! Someone who is that sick does not know what is right for them. They may need the comfort of your physical closeness even if they don’t realize it or want it.

We never suspect that when someone is suffering, that suicide is an option. So go to them NOW. Go to them, hold them, take them into your arms tell them how much you love them! Take a leave of absence or if you need to, use vacation days, get in the car, a train, plane or bus and GO. Why? Because if they do complete this terrible thing you will feel guilty for not letting them know how much they mean to you and for saying in person, what your heart needs and wants to say. The act of actually going to someone says a great deal about how much you care.

Maybe you cannot go in person but call them and tell them how much they mean to you. Tell them everything you appreciate about them. Thank them for the love and the gifts they have given you and even describe them. Send them cards, flowers or a gift representing your love. Send a card every day.

Make them repeat back to you that you love them: Have them say “I know you love me.”

If it feels appropriate ask them what they are grateful for or what they appreciate and love. Gratitude is so healthy and if they can find the spark of gratitude inside they will also access the love that they are. Ask “What do you love?”

Counting blessings is a way to realize accomplishments and what is important in life.

“Love is never far behind a grateful heart and a helpful mind.” Quote: A Course In Miracles

Suicide is FINAL.

Once it’s done, it is over and you cannot bring them back.

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Contemplating Suicide?
If you are contemplating suicide because of a struggle with addiction go to http://www.innerpeaceforyou.me and click on “The gift of addiction.”

This website is dedicated to finding inner peace. Perhaps it will give you a way to look at life anew and help you find the peace that is always within you.

When you have inner peace you have everything you need. Find help – it is out there. Don’t suffer in silence. Talk about it, tell someone how you feel and how desperate you are.

You are loved! And you are Love – that is your identity but if you are listening to your ego you will never know it or feel it. The ego is not YOU. Your powerful mind can choose between the ego or the Love within.

Love is patiently waiting for your recognition – It holds you even if you don’t know it. Know it.

Other sources for awakening to your Truth:

http://www.facim.org
http://www.acim.org
http://www.opengatesangha.org
Google:
Eckhart Tolle
Byron Katie
Eben Alexander