The Elusiveness of Peace and Joy

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The Elusiveness of Peace and Joy!

Do you want peace and joy?  Of course you do.  As least you think you do until you have a judgment or an upset that you won’t let go of.   You are upset because something was done to you and you feel you are in the right and the offending party should go to hell.  Or places like that.  Right?  OK – Let’s say you are right but do you still want peace and joy?  You can’t have it if you want someone to go to hell or hold onto an upset that you will not consider in another way.

I know someone who is holding onto a grievance.  He was actually attacked, pushed up against a fence and would have been hit if someone hadn’t interfered.  Why did the perpetrator assault him?  He had responded to an insult with his own insult and that angered the attacker and so he took matters into his hands, literally.  Who started it?  It doesn’t matter.  What matters is how we now find the peace that eluded us the first moment we reacted.  That will be the subject of another article and an important one but for now let’s look at how we can obtain the peace we want.

We have not found peace by remembering and replaying the event because we are stuck in our thoughts and we are sure we are in the right.  But are you happy being in the right?  Would you rather be right or happy?  Currently whenever we see that person or think of them we are unhappy.  Ask yourself: Do I want peace and joy?

If the answer is YES, then decided to STOP believing the set belief you have in your mind (just for a moment) and choose another way to look at this?  Say:  “OK – I’ll look at this another way for the sake of my own peace.”

*“Begin to think of that (person) brother who has been denied by YOU the peace and joy that is his right under the equal laws of God.  You have denied them to yourself and now you claim them as your own. Think of this brother a little while and tell him in your mind:

My brother peace and joy I offer you,

That I may have God’s peace and joy as mine.”

We don’t think that just because we have denied peace and joy to someone that in so doing we are in effect really denying them to our self.  If you hold hate or a grudge in your mind, you are the one HOLDING the hate and the grudge in yourself.  You are the sufferer.  Do you think your brother is suffering?  We don’t know but we do know you are.

Would you rather say to that brother?

My brother, misery and suffering I offer you

That  I may have the ego’s misery and suffering as mine.

Which version do you choose?  If the word God bothers you, take it out.  God won’t care.  That mystery is love and love never condemns.  It doesn’t know how to.  Make a copy of the pledge and paste it around the house.  Take yourself on as a student and train yourself to accept that peace and joy is your inheritance and that you are worth it.  You are worth it and you will experience peace and joy when you offer it to others and especially to the one you are upset with or have judged or who has offended you.

* The above quotes come from the spiritual book, A Course In Miracles, Workbook lesson 105 God’s Peace and Joy are Mine.  Visit  www.acim.org  go The Workbook lessons and then when the lesson comes up, click on “hear” and listen to the entire lesson and close your eyes.   Choose peace!

Hint: When you give you also receive!

Can we ever agree?

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Yes we can!  Agreement happens when we find common ground on SOMETHING!
The gift is in finding what that SOMETHING is that we can agree upon!
When we are in agreement there is peace.  Where is peace when we disagree?
Eventually when we master the Course In Miracles we will have PEACE even when “disagreement” is seemingly before us.
The Course says “See love or the call for love.”
As we learn to master the Course, little by little  the judgments are fewer.
They gradually become challenges to find shared values rather than separation.
I wanted to share the link below of Professor George Lakoff of the University
of California Berkley.  He explains why we disagree and has an example of how
we can learn to find common ground and become more agreeable!
It is 27 minutes  interview with Tavis Smiley of PBS  (if you cannot open it just google
Tavis Smiley)
 
Professor of Cognitive Science, George Lakoff, UC Berkeley:
 
“Teach only love, for that is what you are.”  A Course In Miracles Text Chapter 6. Section I, 13.

Be 100% responsible for the WAY you see!

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If we are 100% responsible not for WHAT we see but the WAY we see it, we are withdrawing our projections and living the examined life that the Course In Miracle’s is encouraging us to do.  How are you interpreting what you see, hear or perceive?

His Holiness The Dalai Lama has said on occasion that we will not have peace in the world until we have inner peace.  Many spiritual paths help us become aware of the duality of the split mind containing opposite thoughts of love or fear.  The thoughts of the false self, the ego is not who we are but it runs the world and our lives until we begin to awaken and learn to see it for what it is.

On that note, I awoke one morning recently with the following thought:  “Our 45th President is operating from his personality, the false self.  This false self, a mask is not the reality of his true identity. He is not that any more than my false self is who I am.”  It was an “Ahh ha” moment because I’ve been aware that I certainly lose my peace when I watch him on TV or read the newspapers.

To delve further, it is our thoughts and judgments that determine whether we have the inner peace about which both the Course and his Holiness speaks.  We can believe the thoughts or not, that is our choice.  Judgmental thoughts come from our perceptions and then are projected ‘out’ and seen in someone else rather than accepted in myself. It’s called projection.

Some history per Wikipedia: “Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting. In 1841, Ludwig Feuerbach was the first enlightenment thinker to employ this concept.  The Babylon Talmud (500 CE) notes the human tendency toward projection and warns against it: “Do not taunt your neighbor with the blemish you yourself have.”  The term “Projection” was conceptualized by Freud.  He considered that, in projection, thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings that cannot be accepted as one’s own are dealt with by being placed in the outside world and attributed to someone else. What the ego repudiates is split off and placed in another.”

To gain peace we gradually understand the projections we have placed on others by looking inward to see the “offense” is within.  As Course students we honestly look and we recognize aspects of similarities if not in the exact form but similar in content. We thus, awaken because we look and gradually this is the way we undo the ego!  It is not always easy to do because we prefer denial.  But we accept and doing so we in effect forgive ourselves plus the one we are projecting onto.  We are the same!  We have looked at and withdrawn the projection.  We changed our mind.

Inner peace and a piece of wholeness reclaimed is the prize!  For example I may not send “tweets” attacking or insulting others but I may harbor judgmental thoughts. They may not be the same but still they are judgments.  Freedom is: Looking without judgment, but when we do judge (and we will) don’t feel guilty for having judged!  The ego will try and lay on the guilt but instead laugh, chuckle or smile at the folly of the crazy world.  Eventually the ego will dissolve.  You know, deep down, you are the Light of the World!  If you don’t go to A Course In Miracles, workbook lesson 61.  http://www.acim.org – lessons. 

Projecting keeps us from knowing our Light!

Why go to this trouble to acknowledge projection?   If we keep them buried in our unconscious it will eventually emerge in anger, envy and hate.   In making judgments we are in effect, depositing our “darkness or shadow” onto someone else.  That may make us feel better for a while because we got rid of it but the downside is the residual blotch of guilt, a gift the ego neatly places in our mind.  We are addicted to judgment after all we’ve been doing it since  we threw our bottle across the room or whenever we decided we didn’t want to obey our parents, which echo’s the authority problem we have with anyone from bosses to God.

The Course In Miracles in Chapter 11. God or the Ego, Section V. The “Dynamics” of the Ego, pg 202 states:

“No one can escape from illusions unless he looks at them,

for by not looking is the way they are protected.”

Whenever your peace flies away, democrat, republican or independent your ego has taken charge.  You are pushing love away.  The Course says this is reminiscent of the first thought of separation; the separation from God and from love.  Whenever you feel a lack of love, look at your thoughts.  Who or what are you judging?  Judgment is separation and separation is not love; joining is.

We gradually learn we are One; we are the same; we all have the same false ego and the correction of the higher self.

Know this as you head out the door with your sign standing as a peacemaker -protester but at the same time exclude no one from your love.  We can still disagree about policies while holding the hand of the other who sees things differently.  Maybe put a few red hearts on your sign sending the subliminal message: Love is the reason I am here.

We are no longer staring at the shadows on the walls of Plato’s cave because we move to the Light by holding the hands of all brothers and trust knowledge and peace will lead the way.  We are in good hands, we lack nothing and everyone is loved.

You are complete, healed and whole over and above the projections!

Why?  Because they are NOT YOU!

 

I bless myself when I bless you

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The title of Workbook Lesson 187 in A Course In Miracles is:

I Bless the World because I Bless Myself.

The lesson begins: “No on can give unless he has.  In fact, giving is proof of having.”

If you are depressed it is time to send Blessings to Yourself and the way to do that is to bless someone else too!  When you give LOVE to someone with your thoughts you are holding LOVE in your mind!   Therefore you are also receiving that love!

We make room for thoughts that bless someone or something then we share in that blessings in our mind and heart.  If you don’t have anyone to bless, what about your favorite flower, tree, river, lake, mountain, the world, teacher, coach, dog or cat?  When we send a blessing i.e. LOVE then we also bless ourselves wherever we are right now!

Bless yourself for all the thoughts of love that you have ever extend to friends and family.  Extend love to the person you saw standing in line at the grocery story who you judged as _________ (fill in the blank) by sending them message now.   A simple little thought like -“I saw you there and my ego judged you but now I withdraw that thought and see you as a Holy Son of God that you are.”

Since you send the blessing you have right now blessed yourself.  You have also blessed the world because you powerful mind sent a the powerful thought of LOVE and acceptance.  The Course says all minds are JOINED at some level, so just know your loving thought was received not only by that person but to others – the whole enormous family!

In the Course, Chapter 1,  Page 14 in the text:

            Perfect love casts out fear.   If fear exits, there is not perfect love.  But

          Only perfect love exists.  If there is fear, it produces a state that does not exist.

Your perfect love casts out not only fear but all the worries, doom, gloom you are holding onto in your life.  Let it all go and the way to do it is to LET LOVE IN…..NOW.

Visit

http://www.acim.org  and click on Lessons to see lesson 187

God Bless!

 

 

Love or Hate – which will it be?

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During this political season you probably “hate” one candidate and “love” the other?

Right?

We harbor both within our Mind however, our true identity is attached to light and love.  Therefore “hate” is the intruder into your beautiful mind.

But you are the boss!  You can decide not to hate anyone – including yourself.  You have that POWER!  You are the decider!

Say: “I refuse to hate myself or anyone – it makes me miserable and I let all the grudges and judgments GO!”  Really!  You can do this.  Why do you hold onto the old grudges that make you miserable.  Do you like being miserable?  Nope –  so let it ALL Go!

It is that EASY!  TRY IT!!

For example – Decide you will be happy for the next hour!  Look at the clock – write down the time.  State your decision….I will let go of thinking about _______ and worrying about ______ or fretting about ________.  I will spend the next hour releasing and breathing and focusing on being pleasant.

The spiritual book, A Course In Miracles advocates forgiveness for inner peace.   However the Course sees forgiveness as looking at whatever or whomever is bothering us and finding it within ourselves.  We project onto others what is in fact within our mind and thoughts.  So if you are angry with Donald Trump because he is a rude bully – find the rude bully in you.  See the “content” and aspects of being a bully and rude within – even if it is only in the way you “think” but would never say aloud, and sure enough, it is there so now we can let it go.  If you hate Hilary Clinton because she is not trustworthy, look within.  Are you trustworthy?  Really?  When were you not trustworthy?  Don’t go to guilt because that is ego territory.  In “looking” you are forgiving  and awakening. Try it with all those worries and little annoyances you listed above.  Then you are free!

Try it!  You have the Power and the Time is NOW!

If you or a friend are considering suicide please do one little thing:

Read Lesson 360 from A Course In Miracles

LESSON 360

Peace be to me, the holy Son of God.
Peace to my brother, who is one with me.
Let all the world be blessed with peace through us.

1 Father, it is Your peace that I would give, receiving it of You. I am Your Son, forever just as You created me, for the Great Rays remain forever still and undisturbed within me. I would reach to them in silence and in certainty, for nowhere else can certainty be found. Peace be to me, and peace to all the world. In holiness were we created, and in holiness do we remain. Your Son is like to You in perfect sinlessness.  And with this thought we gladly say “Amen.”

And visit http://www.circleofa.org and click on “Miracle” and read the lessons that tell you the TRUTH about you.  You are God’s child not the ego’s.  You are a Holy Son/Child of God having the experience of being and living in a body and are here to learn lessons, forgive and be joyous!

 

 

 

 

Forgive: How to do it!

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When I don’t forgive I am in misery.  I am in doubt and afraid.  I am sad and confused and without a clue about what I should do.  I feel awful and nothing goes right.  My mind is like the branches of this big fir tree on the Pacific Crest Trail, going every which way and winding up….where?

“Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still and quietly noes nothing.  It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearances it likes.  It merely looks, and waits and judges not.  He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive.   But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is.” ACIM Workbook pg. 401. 1. What is Forgiveness.

You can see forgiveness has three important aspects.

  1. Looks:  when I feel AWFUL like the above statement describes, I need to look carefully and notice the disturbed thoughts.  At this point I am in charge of my mind because my “decision maker” has decided to look.   I know I need help to look so I ask the Holy Spirit to help me see this problem/judgment differently.  I have not turned to the ego for help because it will help me hide under its dark wings of denial but I must look because that is where peace lies.
  2. Waits:  I have looked and now I wait for the peace to descend.  I have honestly looked at the problem, what I am in doubt about, what I have judged, am afraid of or sad and confused about.  I have withdrawn my projections (projections make perceptions) onto others and have either found it or aspects of it in myself.  I know peace will descend if it hasn’t already.  A “thought” my enter my mind and it will clarify things.
  3. Judges not:   If I keep ruminating over the problem or if I don’t see and withdraw the projections I will not have peace.  If I continue to judge I am afraid of love and I don’t want peace.  I must continue these three steps until I have what I want: PEACE

The Course In Miracles is a non-dualistic thought system.  We are not our bodies, we are living in a dream and the world is not real.  Nothing has happened therefore there is really nothing to forgive.  Do you forgive the person in your dream who has hurt you?  It’s a dream!  But since we believe the world is real, this practice of forgiveness helps us look at the illusion, our ego’s silly upsetting thoughts and ask the Holy Spirit or Jesus to help wake us up.

This practice of forgiveness does not accept that anyone has harmed you or ever could harm you.  You have harmed yourself by believing the egos judgmental thoughts and thinking you could be separate from God. That’s it!

Example:  When your family member annoys you, look at the annoyance and ask the Holy Spirit to see it differently.  Wait a bit and soon you will have a thought of a time when you annoyed them.   Ahhhh….there is the projection.  Then DO NOT judge yourself.  Just say “No big deal.”  I was wrong and now I am Happy.