Love is Who you Are!

Janpanese Anenomes

Is it possible to really love someone and at the same time judge them?  “He or she’s really great but……” Maybe they are not doing what you would do or want them to do i.e. teens getting home late; partner over spending or not spending on the right things; children, friends acting out and annoying you.   And what about yourself?  Do you LOVE your SELF?  Love is who you are so accept your identity and refuse to judge yourself!  There are irritations in life but WHO is annoyed and why? Identify the part of your mind that is upset.  The ego part of our mind judges others and ourselves….but your identity is MUCH more than the judgments.  You are Light and Love like the delicate pink flowers! All judgments come from the ego part of the split mind.

The goal of a peaceful life unfolds when we decide to change our judgments and thoughts about others and ourselves.   We have a split mind – love and hate.  We finally realize the part of the mind where the ego’s schemes are hatched and how it can disrupt our lives.  The ego is NOT who we are and we no longer heed its urgings.  We gradually awaken to our true identity and accept that we are the love, the Spirit within. The ego tries to cover LOVE up and creates havoc but YOU take charge and recognize the LOVE within that you are.  That love has been there all along.

If we listen to the ego’s voice we will never love others or ourselves un-conditionally. The ego’s way of loving amount’s to manipulation to get its way or giving in order to get. What’s in it for me? Challenge yourself to watch its gyrations and observe it but don’t follow it or feel guilty.  We all have ego thoughts. Just look and laugh! Even something as innocent as going to lunch or dinner and seeing someone the ego judges as “different,” maybe it’s their annoying clothes, their voice or the way they chew food. It is a judgment and it is from 100% separation. That person could be someone you have longed to meet (a favorite author or a professor of quantum physics) if you only knew! The ego does not know anything. Judgment separates us into lonely boxes. Even a “good” judgment, for example “what beautiful hair she has,” which really means I do not have hair like that and so we are different.  The ego likes to compare.  Love never condemns.  You have a powerful mind that DECIDES; you can choose to listen or dismiss the judgmental thoughts of separation. And if you judge yourself it is the ego trapping you.  Don’t listen!

Imagine what it feels like to be deeply accepted, loved and totally guilt free. Feel that within; give it to yourself and you will give it to others. If you condemn others you are condemning yourself.  Jesus said “Judge not so ye be not judged.”  Condemn and you are a prisoner of guilt; but love and you are guilt free.  Realize how guilty or sorry you feel after you have attacked someone and eventually we know it is not worth it!  Love sweeps all ego beliefs away with a gentle hand of compassion.

Love is within and not found out there in the world. Go within and think of someone who has loved you unconditionally.  Maybe a grand parent, aunt or uncle?  If you cannot identify anyone, then entertain the thought of an all loving Creator; Yahweh; Allah, Jesus; Mohammed; Krishna or God (or your dog) beaming love at you like a laser beam. Feel it – and it is yours.   It is your inheritance. You are no longer lost. Love found you. Hear the inner voice of Spirit telling you that you are LOVE; a loving mind choosing love. Everyone is included in the same identity of Oneness.

Wear that identity of LOVE into the world. There is a blessed relief that washes over us when we realize our Oneness with everyone and all things. All bitter struggles, the distractions and loneliness end when we refuse thoughts of separation. Be a love finder, not a fault finder and pure joy will fill your mind and Peace Prevails.   “When you want only love, you will see nothing else.” A Course In Miracles T. 12. VII. 8. (pg. 231)

Lesson 92: Miracles are seen in light, and light and strength are one.

Miracles are seen in light, and light and strength are one. W. Lesson 92.  “If we see others as different from ourselves …  we judge and condemn but do not love.”

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Be 100% responsible for the WAY you see!

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If we are 100% responsible not for WHAT we see but the WAY we see it, we are withdrawing our projections and living the examined life that the Course In Miracle’s is encouraging us to do.  How are you interpreting what you see, hear or perceive?

His Holiness The Dalai Lama has said on occasion that we will not have peace in the world until we have inner peace.  Many spiritual paths help us become aware of the duality of the split mind containing opposite thoughts of love or fear.  The thoughts of the false self, the ego is not who we are but it runs the world and our lives until we begin to awaken and learn to see it for what it is.

On that note, I awoke one morning recently with the following thought:  “Our 45th President is operating from his personality, the false self.  This false self, a mask is not the reality of his true identity. He is not that any more than my false self is who I am.”  It was an “Ahh ha” moment because I’ve been aware that I certainly lose my peace when I watch him on TV or read the newspapers.

To delve further, it is our thoughts and judgments that determine whether we have the inner peace about which both the Course and his Holiness speaks.  We can believe the thoughts or not, that is our choice.  Judgmental thoughts come from our perceptions and then are projected ‘out’ and seen in someone else rather than accepted in myself. It’s called projection.

Some history per Wikipedia: “Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting. In 1841, Ludwig Feuerbach was the first enlightenment thinker to employ this concept.  The Babylon Talmud (500 CE) notes the human tendency toward projection and warns against it: “Do not taunt your neighbor with the blemish you yourself have.”  The term “Projection” was conceptualized by Freud.  He considered that, in projection, thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings that cannot be accepted as one’s own are dealt with by being placed in the outside world and attributed to someone else. What the ego repudiates is split off and placed in another.”

To gain peace we gradually understand the projections we have placed on others by looking inward to see the “offense” is within.  As Course students we honestly look and we recognize aspects of similarities if not in the exact form but similar in content. We thus, awaken because we look and gradually this is the way we undo the ego!  It is not always easy to do because we prefer denial.  But we accept and doing so we in effect forgive ourselves plus the one we are projecting onto.  We are the same!  We have looked at and withdrawn the projection.  We changed our mind.

Inner peace and a piece of wholeness reclaimed is the prize!  For example I may not send “tweets” attacking or insulting others but I may harbor judgmental thoughts. They may not be the same but still they are judgments.  Freedom is: Looking without judgment, but when we do judge (and we will) don’t feel guilty for having judged!  The ego will try and lay on the guilt but instead laugh, chuckle or smile at the folly of the crazy world.  Eventually the ego will dissolve.  You know, deep down, you are the Light of the World!  If you don’t go to A Course In Miracles, workbook lesson 61.  http://www.acim.org – lessons. 

Projecting keeps us from knowing our Light!

Why go to this trouble to acknowledge projection?   If we keep them buried in our unconscious it will eventually emerge in anger, envy and hate.   In making judgments we are in effect, depositing our “darkness or shadow” onto someone else.  That may make us feel better for a while because we got rid of it but the downside is the residual blotch of guilt, a gift the ego neatly places in our mind.  We are addicted to judgment after all we’ve been doing it since  we threw our bottle across the room or whenever we decided we didn’t want to obey our parents, which echo’s the authority problem we have with anyone from bosses to God.

The Course In Miracles in Chapter 11. God or the Ego, Section V. The “Dynamics” of the Ego, pg 202 states:

“No one can escape from illusions unless he looks at them,

for by not looking is the way they are protected.”

Whenever your peace flies away, democrat, republican or independent your ego has taken charge.  You are pushing love away.  The Course says this is reminiscent of the first thought of separation; the separation from God and from love.  Whenever you feel a lack of love, look at your thoughts.  Who or what are you judging?  Judgment is separation and separation is not love; joining is.

We gradually learn we are One; we are the same; we all have the same false ego and the correction of the higher self.

Know this as you head out the door with your sign standing as a peacemaker -protester but at the same time exclude no one from your love.  We can still disagree about policies while holding the hand of the other who sees things differently.  Maybe put a few red hearts on your sign sending the subliminal message: Love is the reason I am here.

We are no longer staring at the shadows on the walls of Plato’s cave because we move to the Light by holding the hands of all brothers and trust knowledge and peace will lead the way.  We are in good hands, we lack nothing and everyone is loved.

You are complete, healed and whole over and above the projections!

Why?  Because they are NOT YOU!